HOW TO FIND YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU WANT IN LIFE
Anyone who’s ever tried to lose weight has likely come across this question at one point or another. Maybe you even ask it yourself when trying to motivate yourself on your journey towards the body of your dreams. It usually takes something like this form:
“I just know I’ll be happier when I get down to 130 pounds.”
Or maybe,
“I’ll be happier in myself when I can fit into a size 8”
But what if I was to tell you that it really doesn’t matter how much weight you lose for your happiness. The reason why is because these goals are based on what other people want, not what you want. You will be just fine when you accept yourself for who you are right now.
Just be happy with yourself
That’s the big secret people. You don’t need to be at a specific weight to be happy with yourself. Once you’re there, you’ll be thinking, “oh believe me I’ll be happier when this or that happens.”
This article is about self-acceptance. Accept who you are right now no matter your current situation whether it is weight loss, fitness, or lifestyle. If you don’t accept yourself first everything else is pointless because you’ll just keep repeating the same patterns.
Acceptance is the first step to everything
Self-acceptance in every aspect of your life is what it takes for real change. Without acceptance, you can’t be truly happy because there’s always something off or wrong about yourself.
WHO AM I & HOW DO I GET TO KNOW WHO I AM?
The big question we all ask ourselves is ‘Who am I?’ The next question is. ‘What’s it all about?’
We all want to know ‘who are we’ and how do we love ourselves first when we know nothing about ourselves. All we know is other people’s opinions of ourselves. The list below will give you some ideas of how you can start to find out who you are and get to know yourself better.
1. LOOK AT A PHOTO OF YOURSELF
Take a look back through your old family albums and see what you can find. If there are any photos where you’re beaming with happiness, keep them to show yourself when you feel low or just need reminding that you used to be happy before your life got turned upside down.
2. TRAVEL BACK IN TIME
Close your eyes and try to remember any happy memories or experiences you’ve had. The more you can be specific about the details, such as smells and sounds, the easier it will be. Keep thinking until you can recreate a whole experience in your head. Then write it down so that you have something concrete to refer back to when you need to be reminded of what happiness feels like.
3. LOOK AT YOURSELF
If you’re not happy with the way you look, make an effort to change it – whether that be your hair or losing some weight. But be careful not to be too drastic as you can do more harm than good if you’re just chasing the wrong things. Make sure the changes you make are for the right reasons and are aligned with your inner self not other people’s expectations of you.
4. DO SOMETHING YOU’RE GOOD AT
This could be anything from solving a crossword to singing karaoke, but it needs to be something that brings out genuine feelings of happiness in you. Then try and do it whenever you can as being able to do the things that make you feel good about yourself will help build your confidence. The more you do things that make you happy, the happier you will become.
5. SMILE
Not only does smiling make you feel good, but it also makes other people happy because they’re mirroring your actions. So be brave and force yourself to smile when you wake up in the morning – even if you don’t feel like it – and watch how much better you will soon be feeling!
6. LEARN SOMETHING NEW
Anything, be it a new language or how to knit – the key thing is that you are learning something. You may be surprised by what you can be capable of if you make yourself try.
7. BE PROUD
Be proud of who you are and all the things that make up your personality. Make lists of all the things you like about yourself and be proud to be who you are.
8. AVOID FEELING SORRY FOR YOURSELF
There is always somebody less fortunate than you, so be grateful for all your good fortune. If life gets too much, ask friends or family to remind you of the things in your life that make you feel lucky. You may be surprised how many things you have to be thankful for.
9. BE HONEST
Being honest with yourself about your feelings can be difficult but it’s important if you want to be able to move on from whatever bad thing has happened in your life. Suicide should be avoided at all costs, but especially if you are suffering from depression – there are people who will help you.
10. BE YOURSELF
After all the thinking, be brave and be you. If you want to be a singer but your friends don’t think it’s a realistic ambition, be a singer anyway! It could be that being determined enough to do something different is what makes you happy. And just because everyone else thinks it’s ridiculous doesn’t change.
This obviously, is not an exhaustive list but it does go some way to help try and get you to the point where you’re thinking about what makes you happy what a really, happy life would look like for you and how you can start to take action to get your life on the track that you really want to be on.
TASK: reading articles never ever works unless you take the action so this week try and carry out as many of these actions above as you can and find out which ones gel with you have a great week.
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