Introduction
It’s the worst thing ever when someone says something about you that you don’t agree with or appreciate. You want to defend yourself, but there’s no way to do so without coming off as defensive or rude. So instead of saying anything at all, you just internalise it and wonder what is wrong with you – why this person has a negative opinion of you that isn’t true at all. But here’s the thing: nobody cares as much about what you’re doing or saying as you do! And now that I’ve said that aloud, let’s talk about why it’s true and how we can stop letting other people affect our lives so much.
- Know that your happiness is in your hands, not anyone else’s.
The first step is to recognize that your happiness is in your hands, not anyone else’s. This might sound obvious, but it can be easy for us to think of happiness as something that happens to us. We might think that if someone does or says something nice for us and we feel happy, then their actions caused our joyous feelings–but this isn’t true! The truth is that we are responsible for our own happiness. If someone does something nice for me and I am grateful for it and appreciate them (which I should), then my gratitude will make me happier than if I had been angry about being done a favour by them (or anyone else).
Happiness doesn’t come from getting what you want; rather it comes from appreciating what you already have.” –Elizabeth Gilbert
- Understand that the opinion of others is none of your business.
The next step is to understand that the opinion of others is none of your business. You have to think about this for a second: how can it be anyone’s job to care what other people think? If you’re going to spend your life worrying about what everyone else thinks, then there will be no time left for you to enjoy yourself or do things that matter in the world.
The most important thing to remember here is not just that other people’s opinions are irrelevant but also that they don’t need or deserve any energy from yours at all! Think back on all the times someone has said something mean or critical about you–what happened? Did anything change because of those words? No! So why would anyone think those words were so powerful? They weren’t; they were just words spoken by someone who didn’t know any better than themselves how little power their words actually had over them (and maybe even over others).
- Get rid of all the people who tear you down, in real life and online.
- If someone is always negative, they are not worth your time. You know the people I’m talking about: they don’t support you and they never have anything good to say. They find fault with everything you do, no matter how much effort or thought went into it.
- If this sounds like someone close to you (or even yourself), get rid of them! It’s easy enough to ignore their negativity online but if they’re in your life on a regular basis then it will be hard for them not to rub off on you over time.
- Surround yourself with people who make positive contributions – whether that means sharing ideas or just being supportive when times are tough – rather than bringing everyone else down with their own personal problems or insecurities
- Have a strong sense of self-worth and do not wait for someone to validate it for you, because they never will.
Self-worth is not about how much money you have, or what other people think of you. It’s not about what you look like and it’s certainly not about what you do for a living.
Self-worth comes from within, so let me tell you the story of how I learned this lesson myself:
When I was younger, my self-worth was directly related to how many friends I had and whether or not they liked me (which is probably true for most people). If someone didn’t want to hang out with me or said something mean about me–and this happened often–I would feel terrible about myself for days afterward because it was such a blow to my ego and sense of self worth. But then one day something changed; instead of letting other people define who we are as individuals by their opinions on our character traits and behaviour patterns alone (or lack thereof), we must learn how valuable each person really is regardless if he or she has no real impact on our lives whatsoever!
- Stop overthinking everything, especially people’s reactions to things you say or do – nobody cares as much about what you’re doing or saying as you do!
It’s time to stop overthinking everything. You do not need to care about what other people think of you, because nobody cares as much about what you’re doing or saying as you do!
You can’t control what other people think of you, but in most cases, it won’t matter anyway. As long as your actions are ethical and moral, then all that matters is whether or not they make sense to YOU. If someone else doesn’t agree with one of your decisions, then so be it! They have the right (and even obligation) to disagree with whatever they want – but it doesn’t mean that YOU should start worrying about their opinion on the matter either way.
Conclusion
Remember, you don’t need anyone else’s approval to be happy. The only person whose opinion matters is yours!
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